Yes, that’s right. A new study by Dr Daniel Carlson over at the Georgia State University suggests that the more men help around the house in general, and take care of the kids in particular, the couple will have more – and better – sex.
How Did They Figure That Out?
Well, they used data from a sample set of 487 heterosexual couples. They broadly split up this data set into three categories. First, there was the set where women did most of the child-rearing. Then there was the set where both men and women split up these duties and then, there was the set where men did most (more than 60 per cent) of the child-rearing.
Then, they also tabulated and ascertained the couples’ sex lives, both in terms of frequency of sex and the general quality of it.
What, Exactly Did They Find Out?
Couples in which women did most of the work reported the lowest scores on the quality of the sex. The couples who shared the work reported the best scores.
“This is a major finding, which we think speaks to the state of hegemonic masculinity and the patriarchal dividend in the United States,” they said.
The study, based on data from the 2006 Marital and Relationship Survey (MARS), was presented Sunday at the annual meeting of the American Sociological Association.
“One of the most important findings is that the only childcare arrangement that appears really problematic for the quality of both a couple’s relationship and sex life is when the woman does most or all of the childcare,” Carlson said in a statement.
Where as the quality of the sex for the women certainly starts increasing when the gender-balance of child-rearing activities keeps getting better. It is great when the work is split and even better when men are doing most of it. At this end of the spectrum, however, where men were doing most of the work relating to children, the women reported the best sex whereas the men reported the worst sex of the study.
Why? The researchers don’t yet know. But they are able to conjecture. “[W]hile the benefits of men’s childcare performance increase arithmetically for women, full responsibility for childcare has at least some negative consequences for men’s sexual satisfaction,” Carlson and his colleagues wrote.
Yet another argument for actual equality and egalitarianism amongst the genders!